Loving Who I am · PCOS, PTSD and Me

Mental Health Is Your Journey

In my post The Taylor Way: My Connection I mentioned that I will be publishing this post. Looking back over the last 9 years, I can honestly say that my mental health is a journey. I came from the darkest place in my life, healed and then stumbled. Now I am in a phase of restoration and moving forward.

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Over these nine years I have learned a lot about who I am as a person. The biggest thing I learned is I am way stronger then I thought but not as strong as people think I am. This comes from the fact that I am high functioning and I have always been. I will put things in place to help me through the tough things. My doctor says I know my limits and how to work around them.

One of the biggest things I had to learn is to break down the myths surrounding mental health. The five biggest myths that affect me personally are:

1.Your not good enough.

2. You need a career to be successful.

3. PTSD only happens to soldiers and first responders.

4. Women give birth all the time and it doesn’t affect their mental health.

5. God doesn’t give you more then you can handle.

It’s taken me years to confront each of these. Your not good enough came from the fact that in a lot of ways, I can’t change things with Lilly. I can throw all the therapy at her but she doesn’t respond in the same way as A-man does. When you don’t see success it’s hard to feel like your a good Mom but that is a huge lie. I am good enough, correction I am a kick ass person!

“How nice that you chose to be a stay at home mom” Honestly I just want to yell when someone says that to me. Our society doesn’t validate stay at home moms which causes this huge lie that you need a career to be successful. The Hubby claims I am one of the most successful people he knows because I keep this family running; and it’s taken me a while to believe it.

Nine years ago when I was discharged, the words postpartum depression and baby blues were mentioned but no one really talked about the trauma I went through. No one really connected the dots until years later. It took a lot to break down myths 3 and 4. Nowadays, NICU PTSD is more talked about thanks to social media and new words are mentioned like PICU and caregiver PTSD.

The last myth God doesn’t give you more then you handle is the one that frustrates me the most! My baby wasn’t even out of NICU and well meaning people where saying it to me. At my most valuable moment I couldn’t handle it. It took someone a few years later to say, “Hun, God does give you more then you can handle that is how you stretch in Him.” She was right because it is through His strength, wisdom, knowledge and understanding that I get through the gross stuff. Sometimes I really hate how I am stretched but after that period I have a deeper relationship with Him.

This post is longer than I thought it would be so on August 7, 2018 I will be publishing a post called Mental Health- My Tool Box. In that post, I will be talking about the tools I use to take care of my mental health including why I prefer coaching.

If you are struggling with mental health issues, please seek out professional help. I have in the past and seen success. Personally I use The Taylor Way (and if you use my affiliate code TTWA25, you can get $25 off the online courses).

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11 thoughts on “Mental Health Is Your Journey

  1. Very well said. I know a lot of people who have had babies in the NICU, and I didn’t think of how much of an impact it would have on PTSD-even more so. I have four boys, two are twins. I was so lucky that both twins were healthy, there was a scare but no one ended up in the NICU, which is very common for twins. Every baby it seems like my PTSD has gotten worse and worse, I’m still battling with feeling and telling myself that I’m doing a good job. I hate the fact that I yell so much (I’m NOT a yeller); things trigger my frustration and anger so easily. Some days are better than others, but it definitely has been more recognized I feel than before in the community which I’m so happy for. My husband is very supportive and tries to let me know every day that I amaze him on how hard I work; small comments like that really help me. But every mom is so strong and should never under estimate themselves, because being a parent as a SAHM or working mom is the toughest thing ever.

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    1. PTSD recovery is tricky I find. One moment your doing great and then you hit a trigger which can set you back. It is more recognized then before I find. I often write about my journey with PTSD and will be sharing some tricks.

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  2. Love this! People are talking about it more and more but it’s important for everyone to remember that each person is different! What’s okay for one person might not be right for another!

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  3. 2 & 4 really hit home with me. In 2015 I resigned from my job to be a SAHM — something I figured would be a cakewalk. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. In addition to that, I’ve struggled in the past with PPD with my first and middle boys. It’s no joke and I hate that it’s such a taboo topic even amongst professionals.

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  4. Love your take on “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle” .. it is phrased wrong bc some things you can only handle with the help of God.. I’ve used this phrase plenty but when I’m suffocating I always lean on the Lord for strength. Great post!

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